Here are 10 things you have to stop doing in order to be happy once and for all. How to be happy? You must let go of everything that causes you sadness, pain, stress and suffering. Free yourself and give yourself the opportunity to be happy.
1.- Stop wanting to control everything
This is suffocating. If you really want to be happy you should try to let yourself want to control everything. I know people who want to be in control of everything and what they do is embitter the existence of everyone around them and themselves. Stop controlling your partner, your siblings, your mother, your father, events or situations, etc. It's not fair. I understand that what you don't want is for the other to fail. Perhaps you feel that you have a responsibility to ensure that what happened to you does not happen to the other, but ... understand that some people learn from their own experience, not from that of others. Give your advice and let the other person be free to choose what they think is best for them. Let others be as they are, you will see that you will be happy.
2.- Stop carrying the responsibility of others
This is very important, everyone has to contribute their grain of sand. I have seen people who take everything to themselves, and carry the full weight of responsibility. Then people go crazy and leave everything to you: at work, at home, at university, at school, at church. Let everyone contribute their part, even if it is small. YOU DO NOT HAVE to carry the other's commitments. Cooperate, but do not carry the responsibility of others: you must be happy.
3.- You are not always right
I know it's hard to twist your arm. It is likely that others are not willing or able to understand your point of view. But ... let it go, it's not worth imposing yourself and hurting those around you. It's too stressful a situation, let it go!
Arguing and violence will take years off your life. If you get too angry, calm down and wait for the waters to return to their course. If you are correct, God will agree with you. You deserve to be happy.
4.-Why are you worried about being accepted?
To be happy, don't pretend to be someone you are not just to get accepted. What will happen when you take off your mask and everyone really sees what you are like? No, you must be yourself, that's what makes you special. Some will like you, others will like you very badly: Don't worry.
Jesus our Lord went through exactly the same ... Let people accept you just as you are, do not make an effort and, please, to be happy you should not pretend to be someone you really are not.
5.-Do not complain so much
"In bad weather, good face", I don't know who said it, but it was certainly wise. Bad things happen to humans all the time. It is acceptable for you to complain and suffer what happens to you, but what is not right is that you live complaining even about the smallest thing. It is not easy to live with someone who lives complaining all the time about trifles, when there are so many people suffering from greater things. When you feel the need to complain, look around you, surely you will see people with problems three times as heavy as yours and, perhaps, you will even see them happy.
6.-Stop making so many excuses
To be happy you don't need them! Excuses limit you, stagnate you, and don't let you live your life to the fullest. Today you are going to say: I can, I want to and I will get ahead. I am going to finish this very important project for me and my family and I will not put it off any longer and, with God's help, I will go out on the road and be happy.
We are not the same, if it were the opposite, would this world be extremely boring? But… Yes, there is something that we all share: the desire to be happy.
Let the other live their life so that you can have time to live yours.
Jesus said to his disciples: “Do not judge and you will not be judged; do not condemn and you will not be condemned; forgive and you will be forgiven ”.
And why do you look at the straw that is in your brother's eye, and do not see the beam that is in yours? How can you say to your brother: "Let me remove the straw from your eye", you, who do not see the beam that you have in yours? Hypocrite! First remove the beam from your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the straw from your brother's eye ”.
If you are going to criticize, do so by adopting a responsible attitude, not harmful, but rather constructive and full of love. You must first know yourself and also understand the other. Harmful criticism will widen the differences between you and your neighbor, it will prevent you from being happy!
8.-Do not resist changes
Changes are good. They help us stay on the move. Changes improve our life and that of others. God knows why things happen. Hasn't it happened to you that something suddenly changes and then things turn out better for you? Be happy and accept the change ... Don't resist, go with the flow.
Lord, do with me what you want, because I know that you always do what you consider best for me.
9.- Let go of the past
Para ser feliz es necesario que dejes ir el pasado, no es nada fácil. Sobre todo si nuestro pasado fue mejor que nuestro presente. Pero, debes reconocer que el pasado ya pasó y solo te queda vivir el presente. Ten en cuenta que ahora en el presente puedes realizar cosas que te enorgullezcan y te hagan aceptar y ver tu pasado de forma positiva. No te quedes en el ayer lamentándote. Vive el presente y no pienses que tu futuro será aterrador. ¡Es ahora o nunca!
10.-Do not get attached to anything
The fact that you are not attached to a thing does not mean that you do not appreciate it or do not love it. When you feel attached to something it means that you are afraid of losing it. Nothing is forever, what if it is forever is the infinite love of our Heavenly Father. Love and fear do not coexist, you must break this bond so that you become a person: tolerant, peaceful, kind, empathetic, loving. It is something difficult to explain, but you become someone who accepts with love everything that happens to him.
We hope these tips help you to be happy, once and for all.