When a person complains a lot, it is a symptom that something is not right in their environment.
The behavior of human beings is a function of what we have and what we perceive in our mind. Complaint is the most common manifestation of a person's dissatisfaction and frustration. If a person complains too much it is probably because they have many areas of their life in discomfort. It does not necessarily mean that you are right, but is dissatisfied.
Differences between men and women is one of the reasons couples argue because we see things very differently. Temperament is an area that affects a lot. Melancholic and angry temperaments tend to complain more frequently than others.
The most frequent complaints from men are:The most frequent complaints from women are:
Their husbands do not help them with the housework and with the care of the children.
Their husbands don't fix things around the house, but they are ready to help their friends.
Their husbands don't listen to them, they don't pay attention to them, or they don't talk enough to them.
They don't have enough sex. They always have a headache or are very tired.
Wives spend more than necessary. They are never satisfied. They always want more.
Wives want to impose their will so that we do things her way.
These and other complaints are almost always substantiated, but the important thing is that we value them and we make mature decisions to address those complaints and seek solutions.
It is quite difficult to patiently stand by a person who complains a lot. The person who complains a lot causes discomfort and the people around him tend to withdraw from him. No one wants to be around a negative person. A person who complains a lot creates tension and leads to arguments that often end in offenses far beyond the subject of the complaint and that deteriorate the relationship.
With all humility and meekness, bearing with patience one another in love, seeking to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Eph 4: 2-3
To deal with your spouse who complains a lot, the first thing is to try to be very tolerant, with an attitude of humility and patience to understand the reason for the complaint and work on whatever is necessary to satisfy the need and resolve the spouse's disagreement. You must pay close attention and value your feelings to detect the reason for your discomfort. Once the cause is detected, both of you should work on a plan to resolve the situation together and make appropriate decisions.
If you are the person who tends to complain a lot, you must learn to open your heart and express the feeling not as a complaint but as a feeling. That way there is a much higher probability of getting a satisfactory answer. For example: instead of saying: "You never pay attention to me,…." You could say: My love I want you to know that I feel sad and discouraged because I do not feel that you pay attention to me. This difference will produce a much better reaction.
Your marriage and your family is the most valuable treasure that God has given you. Take care of him!
GOOD MORNING, BROTHERS IN CHRIST JESUS ... IT IS TRUTH THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE ALWAYS COMPLAINING ABOUT EVERYTHING. MY HUSBAND WHEN WE BECAME BOYFRIENDS, HE DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING ... BUT WE WERE ONLY MARRIED ON THE SAME DAY OF THE WEDDING ... AND FROM THAT DAY I REALLY CAME OUT HIS CHARACTER OF COMPLAINING… .I KEEP THE HOUSE ACCOUNTS 2 MONTHS AND HE TOLD ME YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO DO IT WELL… AND I TAKE THE REINS OF THE ECONOMY AND EVERYTHING OF THE HOUSE OF THE CAR PURCHASE… IN THE END OF ALL ... 35 YEARS HAVE ALREADY PASSED ... AND NOW HE COMPLAINS THAT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE CONTROLLED ... BUT IN THE BACKGROUND HE WANTS TO BE IN CONTROL OF EVERYTHING ... BECAUSE HE IS THE ONE WHO HAS A HIGHER SALARY THAN I HAVE ALWAYS LOOKED AT TO HELP BRING A LITTLE MONEY WORKING, SERVING THE SERRENT IN HOSPITALS, RESIDENCES, PRIVATE PERSONS, AS A CAREGIVER OF THE SICK, HANDICAPPED, CHILDREN, THE ELDERLY ... BUT ALWAYS COMPLAINES BUT HE WANTS TO TAKE THEM EVERYONE ... THE LORD EACH ONE WILL GIVE AN ACCOUNT OF HIMSELF AND THIS IS A COMFORT… BUT THIS WAY UNTO BEING MY HUSBAND, I DESTROYED ME AND I WANTED TO EAT, EAT, I WOULD EAT EVERYONE ... EATING IS COMFORTABLE BUT THE BAD IS THE KILOS ... BECAUSE I AM GETTING TO WEIGHT 1O7 ... A FEW DAYS IF I'M MORE CALM I CONTROL MYSELF BUT IF I DISLIKE HIM ... I SHELTER IN THE FOOD WHICH IS A DRUG FOR ME ... BROTHERS IF YOU CAN PRAY FOR ME SO THAT THE LORD WILL HELP ME TO CONTROL THIS ANXIETY THAT IS DESTROYING ME ... I HAVE GOED TO DOCTORS BUT WHEN I GET DISCOURAGED AND I LEAVE BACK TO THE DRAWINGS… .AND I THINK HOW IT WILL BE IN HEAVEN TO HAVE A GLORIFIED BODY… BECAUSE IN SPAIN THERE IS A CULT OF THE BODY WHO DESPISES FAT PEOPLE, OBESE LIKE ME… EVERYONE HAS TO BE SLIM, PRETTY, DRESSED BEAUTIFUL .... BROTHERS MAY THE LORD BLESS YOU ON THIS DAY AND UNTIL ETERNITY ... PATUNET! KISSES ...
I think that we should love ourselves, value ourselves, not get carried away by the husband's reactions God our Lord has given us self-control and we also know that he is with us at all times, we learn to depend on him and we will receive his help in those moments What do you say I can not anymore. He is with us, cheer up to trust our beloved Lord Jesus and everything will change for you and your family. Pray a lot for your husband so that the Lord will touch his heart. God bless you!!
Friend, brave and hard-working woman full of virtue from God, you are beautiful for complying with the word of God, supporting each other, I congratulate you for that, continue so that in due time you will reap the fruit that you have sown in your husband or all the people around you in your prayers ask God in the name of Jesus to heal all the wounds that we have in the SOUL and all the memories that make you go back in your effort with the inconvenience that you have when you feel that desire to take refuge in That bend your knees and pray for that and if you can read the Word of God, concentrate on what you read, even if it is 1 verse, pay attention to it and pay attention to it, and that will help you a lot, do it daily and you will see fruits. what you feel but the best and most extraordinary thing is that JESUS THE CHILDREN OF GOD understands us and better still and will do much more for us than we think
The most important thing in a home is that there is assertiveness in the couple, that is, a good permanent communication, without it it is difficult to direct what this couple or home wants. Likewise, the emotions and crises that are experienced internally is because there is someone unemployed and there are negative thoughts and they do not see clearly the objectives that there are with a home.
Brothers and sisters, greetings and blessings, please I ask you to pray for my daughter, she married a man who never valued her, always complaining about her, and today he tells her that he is in love with another. I ask my Lord and Almighty God to take her out of this pain that is killing her, to rescue her life from the hole. Thanks hnos. for your prayer. All in the precious name of the Lord Jesus. Amen.
I did not complain, she had a previous relationship and I think that if I loved him, I always tried, she told me that she liked me that I cared for and cared about her, she was not at all affectionate with me, and never He said I love you, however I always told him because I was really in love with her, until one day, he denied me that we had intimacy, and he told me that she still had a wound in her heart, and that she could not overcome, and that I was thinking about him, I felt very bad, quite sad, and he told me that he was not sure if he loved me or wanted to be with me, that he was going to ask God if he had to be with me, or that she warned me , if we are together or not, at that moment I told him that I had already left my past behind, anyone who takes the plow and looks back is not worthy of me, and I told him that all things are made new in Christ Jesus, the fact is that he told me do not pressure me if you want an answer today, it is I do not love you and I do not want to be with you, DO I READ MY THINGS AND I LEFT THE HOUSE, SHE TELLS ME THAT SHE IS EMBARRASSED, AND I TOLD HER THAT WHEN THE TIME ARRIVED, WE DO THE DNA TEST, TO THE BB, AND TOLD ME THAT I WOULD NEVER ALLOW IT, I THINK THAT THAT BB, IS NOT MINE , IT'S FROM YOUR EX. NOW I ASK GOD TO BE RESTORED AGAIN, BUT IT COSTS A LOT OF WORK, SOMETIMES I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I NEED HELP, I lost my job, even my ministry to dedicate more time to it, I play the piano, and the bass, drums, God gave me the gift of music, and now I don't have the courage to do it
Dear friend and reader of RDP:… ..
If you listen and feel that your partner complains about everything, teach him not to do it… .. If his words, actions and ideas bother you, tell him and explain how he should or should not do…. Could it be that you were the one to blame, and then? what to do?….
Learn and Listen to the advice and lessons of your elders… .. Learn from your teachers and educated people; Learn from your parents if they are knowledgeable and educated; learn the lesson well, to correct this defect that bothers anyone ...
Acknowledge your mistakes and start over …… Recognize that you know how to do it well and the fault is not yours but your life partner… ..
Remember that: Life is a School, and we all go through it… .. Remember that you are a child of Life and we all go through it… ..
Remember that no one is born knowing and as we grow, we all learn… .. He (she) who does not want to understand and does not want to learn will lose and will be a fool for the rest of their life …… Word of God…. We Praise You Lord… .. Amen.