The correct order of priorities in the family establishes the proper functioning of it!
Order in all life activities is essential to ensure proper functioning and success, especially in family relationships.
Luke 10:27 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength and with all your mind; and your neighbor as yourself.
From the biblical context we extract that the first and strictly necessary thing to achieve the goal of being a successful person in life is to love God with all our strength and obey his word.
A human being who decides to love God and decides to obey his word, is guaranteed a transparent conscience before God. He is a person who really wants to live God's way.
The second thing that God asks of us is that we love our neighbor as well as ourselves. It turns out that the first neighbor for those who are married or live together as a married couple is their partner. So the order of priorities begins with loving God and our spouse as ourselves. We would never hurt ourselves for any reason. So the mandate is to love our spouse seeking their welfare as much as we seek ours and even more.
Ephesians 5: 25-26: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 to sanctify her, having purified her in the washing of water by the word.
God commands men to love their wives to death and unconditionally. In addition, he commands them to sanctify them by ministering the word of God to their wives. Interestingly, God throughout the Bible specifically commands men to love their wives. God commands women to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33).
In God's wonderful design, when a man loves his wife as he teaches in his word, the woman naturally reacts by loving her husband. In other words, the man was designed to be the proactive in the relationship, and the woman was designed to be reactive. In other words, if the man acts correctly by loving his wife as Ephesians teaches, his wife will react by loving and respecting him. God places the responsibility of family stability on man first.
Then in the order of priorities, the children follow. God does not specifically command us to love our children, as it is the natural design in humanity. Normally, parents love our children unconditionally. However, the children come from third parties in the order of attention. Children can never be first than husbands. This is a functional disorder that has serious consequences for families.
In God's design, children will be fine if their parents have a healthy relationship. It is of little use to children if their parents give them many things or explain things in life in great detail. They will learn from the role model they see from their parents. In a healthy home with the right priorities, children will learn to love God, Dad, and Mom, and they will learn to respect other people.
Then in the order of priorities, work, the Church and the Ministry follow in importance. If the order of priorities in your family is not correct, you have some degree of dysfunction in your home; and they need to give it attention right away. Establish the correct order of priorities in your home immediately.
Your marriage and your family is the most valuable treasure that God has given you. TAKE CARE OF HIM!
Luis and Hannia Fernandez